Understanding the concept of artificiality in relation to trauma<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trauma has a profound impact on our lives, and it can lead us to develop artificial behaviors and coping mechanisms as a way to protect ourselves. Artificiality in this context refers to the adoption of false personas, behaviors, and beliefs that are not aligned with our true selves. It is a defense mechanism that aims to shield us from further pain and vulnerability. However, living in an artificial state can prevent us from experiencing genuine connections, fulfillment, and personal growth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sign 1: Detachment from emotions and inability to connect with others<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

One of the signs that your trauma may be making you artificial is a sense of detachment from your emotions and an inability to connect with others on a deep level. Trauma can cause us to shut down emotionally as a way to protect ourselves from further harm. We may become numb or disconnected from our own feelings, making it challenging to form authentic relationships. This emotional detachment can lead to a sense of isolation and a lack of fulfillment in our interactions with others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sign 2: Constantly wearing a mask and presenting a false self to the world<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Another sign of trauma-induced artificiality is the constant need to wear a mask and present a false self to the world. We may feel the need to hide our true thoughts, feelings, and vulnerabilities behind a carefully constructed facade. This can manifest as pretending to be someone we’re not, putting on a happy face when we’re struggling, or constantly seeking validation and approval from others. Living in this state of artificiality can be exhausting and prevent us from experiencing genuine connections and self-acceptance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sign 3: Inability to trust or form meaningful relationships<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trauma can erode our ability to trust others and make it challenging to form meaningful relationships. When we have experienced trauma, we may develop a fear of being hurt again, leading us to keep others at arm’s length. This can result in superficial connections and a sense of isolation. We may also struggle to open up and be vulnerable with others, fearing that our trauma will be used against us. This inability to trust and form deep connections can contribute to feelings of artificiality and a lack of authenticity in our relationships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sign 4: Seeking validation and approval from others to feel worthy<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Constantly seeking validation and approval from others can be a sign that your trauma is making you artificial. Trauma can leave us with deep-rooted feelings of inadequacy and a lack of self-worth. As a result, we may seek external validation to feel worthy and accepted. This can manifest as constantly seeking approval, striving for perfection, or basing our self-worth on the opinions of others. Living in this state of artificiality can prevent us from developing a strong sense of self and hinder our personal growth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n