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by Atul Gawande<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u23f1 14 minutes reading time<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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Buy on Amazon<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n We often think of forgiveness as a transaction that happens between multiple parties. If the apology is sincere and a pardon granted, everything seems right with the world.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Self-forgiveness seems like a fictitious process when using that perspective. How can you complete a transaction with yourself?<\/p>\n\n\n\n That\u2019s where the idea of learning from a mistake becomes beneficial. Although the past delivered regret, forgiveness is a transaction that helps you see how to avoid the same problem in the future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n We avoid the idea of acceptance for three specific reasons.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It feels productive to run from our problems. When all that energy gets put into avoidance, the grief, pain, and shame seem to vanish for a while.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The trouble with that coping method<\/a> is that those emotions eventually return. By facing the issues instead of avoiding them, each one can be dealt with appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n\n\n\nHow to Approach the Idea of Acceptance and Self-Forgiveness<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Think about the process as a transaction.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Stop avoiding the problem.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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Stash the ego.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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