The Cue Stage<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nCues trigger the brain to start a specific behavior. It is a voice that says, \u201cIf you take this action, a reward should happen.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
In the past, our basic necessities served as the primary cue. If you were hungry, you went hunting or gathered supplies. When you felt thirsty, you found water.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today, our focus is on secondary rewards.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It might be love, approval, social status, or even money that drives the thought of a reward. Since a cue says a reward is close, it pushes the brain to progress to the next stage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Cravings Stage<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nCravings are the motivational force behind each habit. There must be a level of desire or motivation to change, or there is no reason to act.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
What people crave isn\u2019t the new habit, but the change it delivers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You don\u2019t crave caffeine. What you want is the feeling that a cup of coffee offers in the morning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Each craving links to a specific desire to change an internal state. They are different for each person because every human is unique.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That\u2019s why one person can walk through a casino feeling bored, while another craves some time at the slots.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The craving defines the cue.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Responsive Stage<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nEach response is the habit you perform. It can be a thought or an action. Whether it occurs or not depends on your motivation and any friction there is associated with the behavior.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
If specific actions require more effort than you\u2019re willing to offer, the response won\u2019t happen.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A person\u2019s response also depends on their ability. If someone wants to develop a habit of doing 100 pushups each day, their physical strength will limit that number during the initial response.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Habits only form when people can do them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The Rewards Stage<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nEventually, the response a person earns a reward. This goal is the purpose behind each habit and routine people establish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The cue notices the reward, while the craving wants it. When you reach the responsive stage, it becomes necessary to earn what is desired.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
We chase rewards because they teach and satisfy us. Some offer benefits by themselves, such as water quenching thirst. It can also deliver a sense of relief, because the craving is no longer present.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A reward also teaches the actions worth remembering for future needs. The human brain is a rewards detector. It constantly monitors the activities that deliver pleasure and satisfy desires.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The rewards you earn end up becoming part of a feedback system that monitors joy and disappointment, so a habit cycle forms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
How Do We Create Habits Using This Information?<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nWhen you decide to create a habit, ask yourself these four questions based on the different stages the mind uses to create change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n- How can I make it so that things are obvious?<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- What can I do to make it attractive?<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- How can I simplify the entire process?<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- What will make the process feel satisfying?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
By asking these questions, you\u2019ll know what to do and how to do it in ways that encourage positive changes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The first step is to start small. Work on the most obvious thing that you can improve right now. When you succeed right away, the reward outcome fuels more cues that you\u2019ll want to attempt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Choose one thing to be your sole focus when creating a new habit. Make it specific, measurable, and trackable, as you work toward a reward.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
New habits often require us to add and subtract things from our lives. What do you need to do to make room for you to reach your new goal?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Don\u2019t be afraid to ask \u201cwhy\u201d questions of yourself or anyone who will listen! When you start forming a new habit, it should be something you want. Far too often, those choices reflect something that people feel they need to do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n